Apr 052013
 
why mean people are mean... if you know what i mean

I post a lot about kindness (and meanness too I suppose). and yes… I’ve received hate mail about it. Amy when you say that “you treat others the way you feel about yourself” you’re wrong. I treat other people MUCH better than I treat myself. I hate myself but would do anything for other people. So yeah. You’re wrong but I [...]

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Mar 252013
 
is too much... too much?

Currently playing on any social media site… what someone had for breakfast, cute (?) images of children/grandchildren/dogs/cats/if I see one more cutesy pic of ugly babies I may just hurl. Why do we think someone will care? Why do we feel the need to post daily routines or even more personal issues for all the [...]

 Posted by at 9:29 am
Mar 232013
 
power

  Why do we minimize violence when it happens between two people in a relationship? Because we don’t want to get involved? Because it’s “under the covers” and “under the radar” when it really should be under the fucking microscope? Violence against a family member should be no different than violence happening out in the [...]

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Mar 212013
 
think think think

You see me rollin’ writin’. You hatin readin’… over and over and over yet again about the root cause of our problems is the way we think. For those of you who do not know, I spent a decade in the “helping” profession. Therapist of the mental health kind as a licensed social worker. Multiple years working with women’s issues, [...]

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Jan 222013
 
deliberately

Deliberate practice – is designed, can be repeated a lot, requires constant feedback, is highly demanding mentally,  and isn’t much fun. “If it seems a bit depressing that the most important thing you can do to improve performance is no fun, take consolation in this fact: It must be so. If the activities that lead [...]

 Posted by at 10:47 am
Dec 102012
 
stress free Christmas

  This is a first. The first Christmas in a new house with a new blended family. New traditions and money managing and new ways of thinking of holiday seasons.  The gifts, the packaging, the family, the expectation, the stress… it’s enough to kill a girl. So I stopped. I stopped and I reframed and [...]

 Posted by at 10:07 am
Dec 022012
 
making time

    “About half the population needs to make a real effort to feel desire, Weiner Davis said. A reluctant spouse must make a “decision for desire,” she said. “If you wait for the feeling to sort of wash over you, when the dogs are out of the house, the phones are not ringing, the [...]

 Posted by at 8:36 am
Nov 222012
 
show me don't tell me

what am i thankful for… what are you thankful for… grateful… gratitude… thankfulness… easy to say. harder to show. How often are we aware of how many things others do for us? Tell them. Show them… your gratitude. If it takes a national holiday for you to remember all the little things then let it [...]

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Nov 202012
 
brain chemistry

  I had a beautiful short term memory once. Tell me something one time and I owned it. Directions? Fuggetaboutit I could always find my way around. Reading comprehension that was tested (back in the day) as the top 3% in the nation. Photograp hic they said.I have crossed the threshold into increasing forgetfulness. At [...]

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